11-04-2017, 11:45 AM
(11-04-2017, 10:36 AM)Wonky3 Wrote:(11-04-2017, 08:52 AM)Scrapper Wrote:Point taken, Scrapper. I think. I'm guessing what you want to suggest here is exasperation. It looks that is what Judge Judy is expressing so I guess you want to pass that along.(11-02-2017, 07:45 PM)Wonky3 Wrote: What am I missing here?
I wonder if you have followed this thread?
Suppose you encourage me to try French onion soup and I tell you I've tasted it and just don't enjoy the flavor or texture. But, you have said you REALLY enjoy it, and again, want me to try it.
I don't want to be dismissive and tell you I just think French onion soup is not a bit good, so I acknowledge that your taste is fine and say simply "It's my loss" that I don't enjoy it. I say "it's my loss" because I don't want to suggest that because you like it and I don't, it somehow says something negative about YOUR taste. I want to be courteous.
Now. Suppose in reply you tell me (again!) "yes, it really is your loss" and you go on to explain in some detail why French onion soup is among the best soups ever made and it's difficult for you to understand what it is about me that keeps me from enjoying the taste and texture of French onion soup.
At this point I might say, I really don't think continuing the conversation about the soup is going to change anything and I'm feeling like you are trying to tell me that if I don't like the soup there is something about my taste that is haywire and maybe I should eat it often until I learn to enjoy it. It's not the soup after all, it's my inability to learn to enjoy the soup. My taste, that I've expressed several times, does not seem important in the discussion.
Doesn't matter that I have tasted it and don't enjoy it. My taste is somehow not valid because millions of people enjoy French onion soup. I said "it's my loss" because I did not want to be rude or tell you that I simply can't understand how you can enjoy French onion soup.
Should I be exasperated?
I can explain it to you, but I can't make you understand. Whatever my reply (or anyone else's for that matter)... you will go into another harangue.
BTW, unlike you... I do not feel the need to ramble on. If I agree with another person's post (for instance: "I don't like French Onion Soup."... I can reply with a simple: "Ditto."... I don't need to say: "Ditto. I don't like French Onion soup either. I had it once and I really didn't care for it."